Aaron and I were having dinner together at a restaurant when a man who was eating at a nearby table stopped to talk to us on his way out.
He said, “I don’t mean to be creepy or anything, but I have been watching you two for the past few minutes.” Yeah that’s creepy, but we kept smiling and listening anyway. He went on to say that he felt so happy to see that we were engaged in conversation, laughing, smiling and most impressively, not on our phones while having dinner. He even told his wife to glance at us before he decided he had to say something.
We were a little caught off guard and didn’t really know how to respond. I thanked him for noticing and told him that we’ll try to continue the practice!
Aaron and I [usually] make an effort to stay off of our phones during meals together. It’s our time to speak to each other without interruption, without videos, memes, headlines, or tweets.
Many people I know, including myself, have dialed down on their phone usage (I think we’re just getting older), some don’t care either way, and others need help with their phone addiction.
Conversations without screens help us to live in the moment which inevitably makes for better dialogue, and people in your presence feeling valued.
Whether or not you care about other people using their phones while talking to you, I think its worth noting how often conversations are negatively impacted by phone use and how small changes in habits can make all the difference!